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Taking the Plunge

on November 5, 2011

On June 30 we had our followup appointment with our fertility clinic. During that time we had two IUI’s done and neither of them had resulted in our much anticipated BFP (Big Fat Positive).  I was devastated and things felt hopeless.  As we were preparing for our next appointment, we had to discuss what our next plan of action would be. There were three choices: We could try another round of Clomid and IUI’s like we had been, we could take medication, have monitoring done and do IUI’s, or we could go straight to IVF.  I had made up my mind. It was time to go on to IVF. I felt if IUI was the way to go, it would have happened during the first two tries. Deep in my heart I knew there was a reason we were getting pregnant, and the only way any of us were to find out was to watch the fertilization actually take place.

In order to be able to do IVF, we had to be a $250 fee to be added to the waiting list, and because we were coming up to a year with the fertility clinic, there was also re-testing that needed to be done. The biggest fear I had was the doctor not allowing us to do it so early in the game. I mean, five years of trying certainly wasn’t early in the game, but only two assisted cycles is. But just in case things went my way, I scrounged up the money and off we went.

The doctor was more sympathetic this time around than the others. I think we had proven ourselves to not be two young people who were impatient with trying to have a baby. There was something wrong and things weren’t working. She went over the pros and cons of each option we had an gave her recommendation – to try the clomid for three more cycles. But, she said, it was ultimately our decision. I couldn’t wait anymore with the heartbreak of any more failed IUI cycles. I told her I wanted to do IVF. She said that was fine, gave us a package so we could be aware of what we were getting into and we got onto the waiting list. Before our appointment, I had been doing some research and found the average waiting time in Calgary to be 4-6 months. I thought that would be lots of time for us to get our ducks in a row financially and be prepared for when they called us. At the appointment, our doctor let us know the waiting list was about 1-3 months. That was a bit frightening, but it still gave us the time to get a bit ahead before we had to invest so much financially. Nothing would really prepare us for what came next….


2 responses to “Taking the Plunge

  1. Heather Martini says:

    Thanks soo much for having this blog!! We are going to have to go to a fertility clinic. Male factor and have been trying for almost 2 years now. I dont know how you are able to deal with this… I have a hard time and haven’t been trying nearly as long as you have!! I hope it works out and you have the miracle of that precious baby!!!

    • fitzsimonds says:

      Heather, if you ever need to vent or talk about it give me a shout. I can answer any question you have too. It’s a hard thing to go through that most don’t understand *hugs*

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